You ever had one of those days? Ever had one of those weeks, months, years? The days where the tears reside just under the surface for the whole day waiting to spill out. The days where you spend the entire day giving time outs. Except they are to yourself. The days where 5 o’clock when the hubby comes home can’t come fast enough. An then he is late….
I had one of those days today. For no particular reason. The kids weren’t being awful, I didn’t get a speeding ticket, the toilet didn’t overflow. I just had a day where my breaking point was particularly low. And despite a nap and an aspirin the splitting headache wasn’t going anywhere.
Some days you just gotta give yourself a break. Let the TV babysit for a while and don’t feel a lick of guilt about it. Throw the kids (not literally please) at the hubby and retreat up to your bedroom for a bit when he gets home. Hopefully he gets the hint and makes dinner and tells the kids not to disturb you as my wonderful hubby did today. Watch fluffy TV or read a trashy magazine. Take a long bubble bath. Just give yourself a break. If you have parents close by, call on them. That trusted friend…well she should know what to do the second she hears your voice.
Truly ladies, let’s stop acting like Super Mom and cut ourselves some slack. Sometimes life is just too much and we need a break. If your family hasn’t learned it by now, if Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. You can embroider that one on a wall hanging and prominently display it on the mantle, lest anyone forget. But if you’re anything like me, you won’t let them.
This post isn’t meant to be a downer, just a moment of being real, cause that is where I am at today. However, if you want to laugh your booty off and didn’t join me yesterday, here is something a little more light hearted. It is one of my personal faves.
And for more tips, head over to Rocks In My Dryer.
Musings of a Housewife
Twitter: JoLynneMusings
says:
AMEN. I have those days OFTEN. I think we need to give ourselves a break.
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February 17th, 2009 at 9:33 pm
Sarah
says:
True that. Given that it’s tax season and my hubby’s working super long hours, I have a LOT of those days lately – so when my mom calls up saying she needs a dose of my kiddos, I graciously hand them over.
Sarahs last blog post..Crocs Rock
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February 17th, 2009 at 9:36 pm
Gayle @ thewestiecrew
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Girrrrrrl, I give this one a big, fat, hearty AY-MEN!! Today was *that* day for me, too. GREAT post.
Gayle @ thewestiecrews last blog post..The Good, The Bad and The Sad
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February 17th, 2009 at 9:52 pm
Upstatemomof3
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We all have those days now and then. Giving yourself a break when the day has beaten up on you is the best thing you can do for EVERYONE. Hope tomorrow is a better day.
Upstatemomof3s last blog post..The Syracuse Crunch Rock!!!
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February 17th, 2009 at 9:57 pm
Beyond Prenatals
says:
Well said! Women need to hear this more often. But I did have to laugh at the 5 O’clock part, since here in NYC that is unfortunately considered early to get home from work
Beyond Prenatalss last blog post..Water Filters for Women and Children
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February 17th, 2009 at 10:02 pm
Heather
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Amen and amen. If you were here, I’d slap you a high five because this post is right on. We need to give ourselves a break from the mommy guilt!
Heathers last blog post..Morning
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February 17th, 2009 at 10:22 pm
Jeni
says:
I so totally agree! We need to cut ourselves some slack – motherhood is a 24/7 job, and it’s exhausting. A little quiet time & personal care go a LONG way towards keeping a mother sane!
Jenis last blog post..WFMW: My Sleeping Buddy
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February 17th, 2009 at 10:55 pm
Dawn
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Seems I just had one of these days..it’s for the birds that’s for sure! TY Ty TY for helping me to feel less guilt.
FYI: On the bottom of your post where you linked RIMD it’s your link..
Dawns last blog post..Birthday Party highlights..
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February 17th, 2009 at 11:01 pm
Cari
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I’m feeling ya girl! I’m impressed that you manage to hang onto that quirky sense of humor in spite of the headache and exhaustion. Give yourself a hug from me!
Caris last blog post..What A WONDER-ful World
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February 17th, 2009 at 11:09 pm
Simply Sara
says:
Thanks. I so needed to hear that!
It’s been a hard day over here as well. My hubby’s still at work though. I just put the kids to bed (a little earlier than normal but definitely necessary for mama’s sanity.) I don’t even feel guilty anymore now that I’ve read your post
Thanks for reminding me I’m not alone in this!
Oh and btw I did laugh my booty off at yesterday’s post. Bahahahaha. You two sound like my hubby and I.
Thanks for keepin’ it real!
Love your blog!
Simply Saras last blog post..100 Things About Me
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February 17th, 2009 at 11:20 pm
Dave Roller (Home School Dad)
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Boys can have those days too. And Sister did I ever. I teach the kids and my wife works outside the home. I certainly had a day where my breaking point was particularly low, as well. Thr good news, is that it passed. Here’s hoping tomorrow is better, for both of us!
Dave Roller (Home School Dad)s last blog post..WFMW
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February 17th, 2009 at 11:28 pm
Erin G
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I must say I really needed to read this today. I’ve been having one of those MONTHS. Hubby is out of town, but with kiddo in bed I can still have some junk-tv time to myself and take a bath. which I am about to do right now. thanks for the suggestion. you rock!
Erin Gs last blog post..Carsick
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February 17th, 2009 at 11:51 pm
Trisha
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I couldn’t have said it better myself! Thanks for the reminder that it is ok to have some time to ourselves! We are better mommies and wives for it.
I stumbled across your blog a few weeks ago and discovered the 1 Cor. 7:5 challenge. Love it!
Trishas last blog post..c to the r to the a to the z-y
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February 17th, 2009 at 11:55 pm
Lisa
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You’re so right. And we need to let go of the mommy guilt….it’s ok to take a break. Lisa~
Lisas last blog post..The Amazing Race
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February 18th, 2009 at 12:02 am
Heidi @ Blue Eyed Blessings
says:
This was SO me yesterday! I think the whole “mommy guilt” is a big thing we need to let go of. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and being open enough to be honest with all of us!
Heidi @ Blue Eyed Blessingss last blog post..baskets here, there, and everywhere!
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February 18th, 2009 at 12:53 am
Jane Anne
Twitter: gravityofmotion
says:
What a wonderful reminder! We got back last night from a long weekend away. I am happy to say that I didn’t allow myself to feel guilty this morning when I let my kids watch TV. This post just affirms that sometimes you need to make exceptions to the rule so you can stay sane!
Jane Annes last blog post..Works-For-Me Wednesday: Free Magazines
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February 18th, 2009 at 1:11 am
Mrs. Q
says:
Yesterday was that day for me. Flooded toilet, son who cut the DVD power cord, tireder than heck and raging sinus congestion. Today was a lot better. Hope you are doing better today!
Blessings!
Mrs. Qs last blog post..Designed By Mr. Dramatic
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February 18th, 2009 at 5:20 am
Narelle Nettelbeck
says:
Hi
Just wanted to say that I’m enjoying reading your blog. I’m glad you’re not scared to share the not so good mummy days! I had a blah day yesterday and blogged it too! Writing about it made it seem so much better.
I love the 1 Corinthians Challenge – I’m a little behind but will try to catch up! Hubby will love you!
Blessings to you and yours
Narelle from Australis
Narelle Nettelbecks last blog post..The Little Men in My Life
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February 18th, 2009 at 8:20 am
Christin
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It’s important to just be real. Don’t feel bad about that. Transparency is what people want/need the most. I pray your day goes well today. I know those days all too well, I’m afraid. Having one today, in fact.
((hugs))
Christins last blog post..My Son is in the Hospital
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February 18th, 2009 at 11:16 am
Tracye
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Yesterday was that day for me. Hubs didn’t get home until 8:00, unfortunately. He’ll be working 18 hour days for the next two days, so I hope I’m better to my kids today and tomorrow than I was yesterday.
Tracyes last blog post..Happy Valentine’s Day!
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February 18th, 2009 at 11:57 am
Raise Them Up
says:
Sigh. Thank you.
Raise Them Ups last blog post..Works For Me Wednesday: It’s A Party! BYOB!
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February 18th, 2009 at 12:00 pm
Debbie
says:
Breath of fresh air here. Thanks for the permission to take a break without guilt!!!
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February 18th, 2009 at 12:32 pm
Bobbi
says:
Oh, thank you so much! I needed to hear that! Winter time is just going to kill me, I think! ACHK! Now, I shall attempt some guilt free chillin’ out. Thanks for the permission!
Bobbis last blog post..Wordless Wednesday…
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February 18th, 2009 at 1:07 pm
Angela
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Amen to that for sure. My hubby just went to 12 hour days due to extra work and not enough staff, so when 7:00pm rolls around, I can’t be happier.
Angelas last blog post..Works For Me Wednesday
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February 18th, 2009 at 2:02 pm
Heather
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I hope I get to embroider something for you to hang over your sink before I move:)
Heathers last blog post..Children say the Darndest Thing
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February 18th, 2009 at 2:22 pm
Tiffany
says:
YES!! I’ve never understood why so many women have such a hard time letting themselves off the hook. Maybe I just have more of a lazy/selfish streak than most. But when I feel one of those days coming on, I just go with it. I know it’ll only make things worse if I fight it and try to be all uber-productive.
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February 18th, 2009 at 4:45 pm
MommyAmy
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Yup! Totally agree. I’ve had a few of those days in a row lately, think I might have a sinus infection or something… or perhaps just too much caffine recently and now I’m coming down from it. lol
MommyAmys last blog post..Way Back When-endsday: Sleepy Babies
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February 18th, 2009 at 4:56 pm
Julie Stiles Mills
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I like Christin’s word “transparent” but I use the word “authentic” more often. I try to PLAN days off, or hours off, or minutes off – if that’s all I can take/get. Basically, I need some solitude on a regular basis or I turn into a puddle of goo.
Great, encouraging post! Thanks!
Julie Stiles Millss last blog post..PDA Cookbook
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February 18th, 2009 at 7:01 pm
niki
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Amen, sista!
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February 19th, 2009 at 1:27 pm
jubilee
says:
Yesterday was one of those days for me. No amount of Coke and brownies could have redeemed the day. Luckily the kids weren’t too rowdy and The Calm One did take over for me. Until I realized he was having a terrible day too. Then I had to suspend my escape ’cause he never has those kinds of days.
When you figure out how both parents can escape at the same time (and not necessarily to the same place, if you catch my drift) would you let me know? We tried our best to console ourselves with a couple of dvr’d episodes of LOST and potato chips. If only we’d had a pint or two of Chubby Hubby
jubilees last blog post..Wild Card Tour – Tuck by Stephen Lawhead
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February 22nd, 2009 at 12:14 am