Oh yeah, its back. Cause I don’t know about you, but don’t you just need a reminder, a refresher, a support group of women who are jonesing for some marital hokey pokey? I would love to tell you I have come up with a whole bunch of new challenges to put a spark back into your marriage, but I am not that good. So I am starting at the beginning and we are doing them again. I will tweek them a bit, and if you have any fun ideas for a challenge, I am more than happy to add them in. If your new, perfect, join on in. If you’ve done these the first time around, I am betting you could still stand a second go at it. And I thought I would be nice and start your New Year’s Resolution list for you. I’m such a giver.
Are you in? Your husband wants you to be…
There has been a ton of focus in the Christian community on the Proverbs 31 women. What is not to love? She cooks, she sews, she spends money wisely, and her children and husband love and obey her. I am not trying to mock the verses; it is a standard we Christian mommies should strive for. However there is another verse for Christian mommies we are quick to overlook.
So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control. (1 Cor. 7:5, NLT)
Yes ladies, I’m talking about sex. Or more accurately, the sad lack of it that is going on in many marriages. When I told a friend I was going to be blogging about sex she responded, “But you have a Christian blog.” This is where we Christians are seriously missing the boat. Did you see the scripture reference at the end of the quotation? God talks about sex in the Bible. And not just to tell us not to have it. He is telling married people to have it regularly. Now this commandment made not have made it in to the top 10, but it was important enough to make it into the big book. So why is it often overlooked?
I talk to a lot of mommies. A lot of women post-kids complain about losing interest in sex. Some regard it as a chore, some as a duty to just get over with, some as something done once a month during ovulation to try and procreate. At best, some regard it as something that sounds nice, but they’re just too dang tired to enjoy. Ladies, God gave us sex as a gift to enjoy with our husbands. Don’t believe me? How about a quick anatomy lesson? Women have something even men don’t when it comes to sex. An organ devoted entirely to sexual pleasure (if I lost you, it rhymes with Delores). So why aren’t we enjoying it more?
Let me pause for a moment and say…Mom stop reading my blog for just a minute. It will be safe to come back tomorrow. To my single friends-I know you think this premise is crazy. If you are staying pure, waiting for Mr. Right, you may find it insane that there are married women running around complaining about having to have sex. I could give you our excuses: the kids are making me tired, I don’t have the body I used to, Grey’s Anatomy is on, he doesn’t bring me flowers anymore… but the fact is, we married women often drop the ball (does this make you giggle, no, sorry).
So here’s the deal. Every Monday, I will be posting a challenge on my website to encourage us wives to step it up to improve the sex in our marriages. It will be tasteful (pretty much), it will be fun, it will be great for your marriage, it will be pleasing to God. What more can you ask for? Let me be clear, this is for the MARRIED ladies and their HUBBIES. The rest of you have to sit this one out 
For those ladies who are already rock-stars in this area -kudos to you (and your lucky hubbies)! I suspect however that the bulk of us need a little encouraging. So are you brave enough to jump in? If so, leave me a comment. I would love it if you would reference the challenge on your blog, twitter, Facebook, skywriting whatever works. If you want to post the button linking to this contest in your sidebar, I can give you the code. Also, I will be setting up a P.O. Box for all the thank you cards (preferably with cash in them) that your hubbies want to send.
Are you up for the challenge?
Week 1: Fix Your Boudoir
Week 2: Mama Needs A New Pair Of Panties
Week 3: How Illuminating!
Week 4: Shock and Awe
Week 5: Double Your Pleasure, Double Your Fun
Week 6: When In France
Week 7: How Bout Something A Little Racy (and Lacy)
Week 8: Take It Off!!
Week 9: Tell Him What You Want
Week 10: Shake It Up Baby Now
Week 11: Let’s Talk About Sex Baby
Week 12: Let’s Get Physical
Week 13: A Weekend Getaway
Week 14: The Challenge of Purity
Week 15: A Change in Scenery
Week 16: Try a Nooner
Week 17: I Feel Like Makin’ Love (Sunday at 10 pm)
Week 18: Who Knew The Brain Could Be So Sexy?
Week 19: Laughter, The Best Aphrodisiac
Twitter: longwait4bella
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Thanks! I added your button on my blog. I am in!
I just finished watching fireproof, so i am motivated to have the best marriage I can.
LaVonnes last blog post..And One More Thing
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May want to try reading “365 Nights” by Charla Mueller. Very thought provoking, sometimes irreverent and, in general an INTERESTING read.
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Very cool. I am in on the challenge. i am actually going to start tomorrow!
Thanks carrie
Carries last blog post..Ethan’s first birthday party
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Great idea! I’m in! I am linking to it and inviting my readers to join. sounds like fun! I think I will have to start after my kids are better from bronchitis and the flu though. After that, lol, oh baby!
IE Mommys last blog post..An Interview with Kirk Cameron of Fireproof
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Im definetly in, i need the help.
Kats last blog post..MORE SNOW!!
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I am in!! Adding your button to my blog.
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I just stumbled upon this today and I’m in if i’m not too late? Something that definitely needs to be worked on a bit in my marriage.
Melissas last blog post..Friday
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You are so smart! Thanks!
Sarahs last blog post..Honestly Tagalisicious
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This is so neat! Super awesome topic for your CHRISTIAN blog!!! You go girl…I’m totally in…my hubby will be THRILLED!
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I found this wonderful challenge a couple weeks ago and it has already worked wonders. I added your button near the top of my sidebar so that everytime I open my blog page I am reminded of the challenge and what I should be doing to make my marriage a priority.
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Great meeting you this weekend! Love this series!
Tricias last blog post..Once A Month Grocery Watch List for Week 2
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I am so enjoying this challenge….it is great to see the “change” in how I approach love making now…
ruth a. stiless last blog post..The Challenge continued…
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I am sooo nodding my head in agreement right now and laughing at the same time. You hit the target straight on and I’m happy to have found you! thank u!
jen olsens last blog post..Dancing stilettos.
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My husband can’t wait for me to get in on this challenge. He just subscribed to my blog so I’m anxious to see what he says when I post the button.
LOL
Angies last blog post..Toy Yoda addition..
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I had to come back and here put a link to my post about the challenge. Thanks for hosting this!
http://catholicgirlyzoo.blogspot.com/2009/02/marriage-challenge.html
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i am new to your blog and stumbled upon this challenge!
I love it!
I got a great book back in the fall that helped… for awhile… called “Songs in the Key of Solomon” by Anita Renfroe and her husband. it is great and i highly recommend it!
I wikll join your challenge and catch up the best I can!
thanks ! you are a blessing!
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I am a newly wed…I don’t want this to loose this in our marriage…I will try my best to keep up with the challenges.
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this is the correct site…
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I hope I’m not too late to sign up!
Gonna put your button on my blog and already posted it to my Facebook!
Woo Hoo…something to be excited about!
Traceys last blog post..Where does the weekend go?
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I found this through Works for Me Wednesday and I’m in =) I added it to my blog.
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glad I found the website – this is exactly what I needed right now!!
Shelleys last blog post..Poor Little Man
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I’m so in. It will be fun!
Vespers last blog post..The price is right!
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Wow, if I were married, I would be so in! Thanks for recognizing us single women, and this will be something I reference when I become married to my Mr Right!
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I’m in. Yippeeee!
Natalies last blog post..The Challenge
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I am in! My poor husband has been a bit lonely lately. I need some motivation!
Emilys last blog post..Ahhh, coffee…
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I love having sex it is my husband that isn’t into it. I would have sex every day of the week if possible!!!!
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I am IN! Yay! I’m so excited
I put your button on my blog!
.-= Jaime´s last blog ..Christian Summer Camp =-.
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This is such a great challenge! Especially putting sex back in the RIGHT frame of mind for us married women who get so overwhelmed with every day life and little things. I’m starting fresh, thanks!
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You will probably think I’m lying, and many others might too, but my mom quoted this same verse to me when I first got married!! Having sex with my husband, helps me on sooo many levels! Self-esteem-wise I feel great, because he actually still wants me after having 8 children! (God bless him!) And lets not forget stress relief for both of us as well!! And did you know it actually can stop a migraine? And lets not forget it reminding me that my husband and I ARE one!!!! You have a blessed way of writing!! God bless you and I pray that He furthers you in this!!!!
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I’m in for sure! Thank you for coming up with this challenge! God bless you.
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Twitter: messymommy3
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Bookmarked! I’m in!
.-= Messy Mommy´s last blog ..it’s time to party =-.
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I know it’s been a while since I first took part in this challenge, but I mentioned this challenge to the Rachael Ray show since they are posting secrets to “rev up” the bedroom after baby… I couldn’t help but mention this!
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Added your button to our blog
we are in 
Jackie Ladner´s last [type] ..Two bottles of JulAir Natural Air Neutralizer are up for grabs
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This won’t be difficult. My hubby always asks for the lights on…or the afternoon sunlight. Yep, we totally keep the shades open…a little.
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Valuable info. Lucky me I discovered your website by accident, and I’m shocked why this accident did not happened earlier! I bookmarked it.
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I am beyond late BUT I am starting this challege… TODAY! I am founder of The Miami Young Wives Club, Inc and I am going to share it with the wives of my group as well.
Thanx.
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August 16th, 2011 at 8:54 pm
How wonderful. So glad you found it!!
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