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Twitter: OrdinarySarah
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Perfection. Simle perfection. Wish I had read this a good a15 years ago.
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Ordinary Sarah
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September 5th, 2011 at 10:07 pm
Simple, not simle. Woops.
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Diaper Diaries
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:04 pm
Sigh. Me too.
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Twitter: ryaningr
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Amazing post babe. Our daughters are so blessed to have you as a mom!!!
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Twitter: Janmary3
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So well put – Amen – I have many of the same concerns and really identify with those points.
Add in the raging hormones of a teen to it all and it certainly makes life interesting.
Of all your points it is probably the last 2 which are the most difficult for my 13 year old daughter to believe right now.
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Diaper Diaries
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:04 pm
Isn’t that just heartbreaking. Such hard years.
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Can I copy it & sign my name for Megan??? So good, so sweet & so right on!!
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Diaper Diaries
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:04 pm
Absolutely. Steal away
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Twitter: Sadiewindham
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Such a great letter! I was just having a conversation with a neighbor/friend about a lot of these things {she has two girls just a bit older than mine}.
And yes, always use mom and dad as an excuse! I did it countless times and saved myself from a lot of heartaches because of it.
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:03 pm
Isn’t it the BEST parenting advice ever. I am so grateful my parents did this for me.
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Twitter: hebronmommy
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What a fantastic post! Every mom should take the time to put her thoughts into words and share them with their daughters. Too often we assume they already know what to do or what we are thinking. I couldn’t have said it better myself and feel exactly the same way on so many points. Will definitely be sharing this with own 11yr old daughter. Thank you for sharing!
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:02 pm
Thank you. I am hoping now that I have written it down I will be more intentional in my parenting.
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Wonderful! Such wise words. I have 3 boys…please can you write one for boys
)) Though I think I can pinch at least 7 of the above and insert ‘boy’ instead of girl and it would still be Godly advice .
Thanks for this !
Judy x
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:02 pm
Sigh. Thankfully I have a little bit longer with the boy. I am clueless when it comes to boys.
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So good! So true! Number 8 is a great one! I will have to save this post for my kids.
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Love this! Though my daughter is years from being a teen, I’m already scared (giving it over to God) to death. You summed up so much of my heart in this post!
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:01 pm
We can always pray Jesus comes back before they hit the teenage years
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This is wonderful.
Two things:
1. About to share this on FB.
2. #10 reminds me of the newest Shane & Shane song. If you haven’t seen the video, you should. Here’s the link–http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEYjSQipL60.
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September 6th, 2011 at 2:21 pm
Off to watch. I love them!
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:01 pm
Well THAT left me a sobbing mess
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karen
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September 7th, 2011 at 12:06 pm
LOVE this video and love your blog post Jill!
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Twitter: Shannon_Ott
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OH how beautiful and perfect and awesome this post is! And, I agree fully with your husband… what a gift your children have been given in a mother like you. I cant wait to sing this post from the highest mountains. As a mother of two small girls, I hope I always can help them remember each and every single one of these important life lessons.
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September 6th, 2011 at 2:20 pm
Plus I think when you know what you want from them when they are older you can start parenting them like that when they are younger
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Twitter: LittleBitJen
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I love this, Jill. So simple and the advice is just perfect. Although, not all of us are so sure about #5, but time will tell. And, oh my, #8. I did this all the time!!
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September 6th, 2011 at 2:11 pm
Well if not their daddy then maybe their heavenly Father
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Twitter: theraponskin
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Perfect! I am stealing this and reading it to my girls
Your girls certainly are blessed to have you – as a mom and not a friend. I l LOVE, LOVE, LOVE #10!! Great post my friend…….
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September 6th, 2011 at 2:11 pm
Thank you. And YOU should really be giving ME advice. You are in the trenches of this. It is probably easier to write about it when you are not up to your eyeballs in hormonal girls
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Awesome, Jill. Love it. All of it. And “it” being this post.
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beautiful! Perfect! SUPER LOVE!
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Twitter: kathill
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LOVE THIS! I’ve said most of the same to my girl who is growing up way to fast. I love the way this is all written out.
She and I went on a girl’s retreat this weekend (which I TOTALLY need to blog about) and talked about body changes and why our bodies are changing. (This was all categorically deemed disgusting btw).
I think next girls retreat I shall give her something like this on a nice card that she can put in her Bible (or wherever she feels she needs to put it).
LOVE!
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September 6th, 2011 at 2:21 pm
Kathy I LOVE that idea. I am totally stealing that!!
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Twitter: JoLynneS
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Best. Blog. Post. Ever.
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:00 pm
Well that is high praise. Thank you.
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Twitter: ebum1101
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love this post so much
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Twitter: randi094
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Ah.maze.ing.! I love that you said modesty is classy and not modest is hottest – that phrase just does not sit well with me. I also love that you said “I am not your friend, I am your mom”. I agree 100%. I would also add that they should wait until marriage to have sex yet talk openly to them about it and not make sex seem bad so that it’ll cause problems in the future of marriage. Also, being a “good girl” is a great thing! The perfect (for them) guy will appreciate it and then you don’t have to feel bad when you reflect on your past.
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:00 pm
These are GREAT additions. Love them
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Twitter: jkjohnston
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Thank you for writing this! I am holding on to this for my little girl. All things my mom told me when I was younger and I’m thankful to this day for it even though I didn’t like everything she said at the time.
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September 6th, 2011 at 5:00 pm
Yes. That is the trick. Getting them to listen
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Yes!!! Thank you for writing this, Jill. I’ll be sharing it with my own girls.
The Moosh post reminded me a little bit about one I wrote a while back. Just in case you’re interested: http://www.shellywildman.net/2011/03/how-your-daughter-dresses-matters.html
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September 6th, 2011 at 7:24 pm
I LOVED that post of yours. One of my favorites.
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Twitter: louannemason
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This is wonderful! As a mom of 2 girls (age 4 and 2) this was a sweet thing to read.
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Love this. An adult friend of mine (young widow in her 30′s) told me that as a teenager her father told her “Don’t do anything that you would prevent someone you’ve never met from liking you” She said she thinks about this all the time. She is in a difficult situation dating with young children and she always reminds herself of this and how she handles her personal life. So as a teen I think this relates very well to #1, #6 & #7 especially. You should ask yourself would I want my “future best friend, boyfriend or husband” to know that I did ____? Character is doing what is right when nobody is looking.
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September 8th, 2011 at 12:30 pm
I LOVE that!!
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Twitter: JenHuiz
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Great post, Jill! I wish every mother would tell her daughter these things! I am so thankful that my mom taught me many of the same lessons, and using your parents as an excuse is always effective!
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Twitter: amgrose
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Well said. Thank you
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Twitter: mooshinindy
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Oh I love it. Throw me under the bus all you want ladies. I’ll be the lame parent if it means you stay safe.
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Here’s from Finer Things and just have to say this. is. amazing! My little girl is only 1, but I’m going to save this for our future.
Heather
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September 11th, 2011 at 7:58 pm
Thanks so much for stopping by!
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Great post!! I’m not a mommy–unless our indoor/outdoor cat counts as a child–but I will be sharing this with some of my mommy friends. I’m also going to file this away for myself to use at a later date.
I’m a high school teacher, and I wish some of my girls would get this message from their moms.
PS…Thank you for deciding to be a parent and not your child’s BFF. So many parents want to be the friend, thank you for being the parent and being ok with that fact.
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September 14th, 2011 at 9:18 pm
Thank you for your encouragement
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Twitter: ShoutLaughLove
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hell to the yeah. good wisdom here. so glad it’s not time for me to dig in my heels yet!
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Love this post!!!!!!! It is fabulous!
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This is a fabulous post. My first three children are daughters and the years are approaching all too quickly when I’ll be saying these things to them as well. I’ve been using the line, “I’m your mom…that’s my job” for most of their lives and I’m glad I don’t try to be their friends. Being their mom is work enough without having to ensure they like me, too.
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Love this!!! I have 3 teenagers, 18, 15 and 14. My youngest is a girl and boy has it been a challenge! This is the perfect letter for her and so well put! Thank you!
God bless you and your daughters and thank you for sharing.
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love this!! (just came over from Simple Mom). i totally agree with everything, but speaking of these times being particularly hard for raising girls (and boys), i would say that maybe this letter (or part of the letter) should enter the scene before the teen years? (i.e. before age 13?) i know that boy issues started for me around 11/12…. and sadly it’s probably not getting any better for kids today. my 12-year-old male cousin had a “girlfriend” starting at age 12 – and that’s not uncommon at all. in fact his girlfriend had already had 3 “boyfriends” before 6th or 7th grade.
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January 1st, 2012 at 9:29 pm
Ugh I know. It all starts so early these days. Thanks for stopping over.
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Wise/wonderful advice!
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Diaper Diaries
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January 1st, 2012 at 9:28 pm
thank you
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Your thoughts about mean girls, particularly “you will most likely remember the girl who rose above it all and treated people with kindness” is absolutely true! I remember the mean girls and still (15 years out of high school) still associate those girls with meanness.
Thanks for sharing!
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Diaper Diaries
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January 2nd, 2012 at 9:24 pm
Thank you. Our memories are long aren’t they?
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